Dear all, if females outnumber! [Archives:2007/1075/Community]
By: Maged Thabet Al-kholidy
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Noticeably, women outnumber men not only in Yemen but all over the world. This happens naturally and most people accept it like this. Some people, nevertheless, look at that as a social problem, while others regard it as something normal since there would be no difference between the two cases.
Though equality is always preferred in everything, it is sometimes preferred, at least to me, to have female more in number than male, especially when they prove successful in the aspects of life they are involved in.
In the Western societies, the larger number of female can be noticed anywhere since no social or religious restrictions tie their personal freedom of study, work, or doing anything else outside home. They feel the responsibility of constructions and improvement societies. As a result, they are self-confident and self-dependent.
But this differs in the Eastern world, especially in the conservative societies. I say conservative societies to compare them to other Arab and Islamic societies where such restrictions are not there at all and women enjoy rights of obligations and duties as well.
In the case of Yemen, which is a conservative society, there are many religious and social restrictions that limit the women's activities. Such ties are sometimes logical and related to religious or social norms. But, sometimes, they are not in the sense that they prevent women from their simple rights. This usually happens 'in some' of the rural areas.
Especially in villages and the tribal families, women get less opportunities to work or to study. They have no objections against this because they are not educated or cultured to know so. They accept the situation as it is; unknowing what takes place around; otherwise there might be a change.
In spite of this, the cities witness the spread of female in almost all the social, political, educational, etc activities. They do not fail nor do they complain against difficulties to deal with the male except in some rare cases. But the attitude of some men is sometimes negative though there are many positive things to turn it over.
Some people look negatively on the case of having women as partners in all the aspects of life. They seriously declare its danger as a critical social problem that requires fast treatment. For them, women are for nothing more than kitchens and home affairs. And as a sequence, they may harm the society if they grow in numbers in high ranking positions and social affairs.
Worse still, women, in some cases, are humiliated for being a shame for the family. They have nothing to do or even to express feelings and opinions because they are 'mere women', and as some men claim that they are of 'light minds'. It is really astonishing when such people search for a solution for such a problem, though there might be no problem at all.
Many other people find no distinction whether men are more or women. Both are human, and can do similar things any where and any time. The difference is only in the 'sex organs' which have nothing negative to society or even to religion, of course, if they behave morally with each others.
In my personal opinion, though I have 'allergy with the so-called fair sex', accepting women as positive partners in life stabilizes the society and reduces the conflicts among the both sexes.
Nobody denies this 'without women there would be no men'. The difference of the sex origins will not disturb the relation since both will deal self-confidently and follow the Islamic and social norms. There is no problem if women are more. On the contrary, there might be a better situation.
Regarding study, we find the female get the highest rates. This indicates how much serious they take matters.
Similarly in the case of work which can be done by any sex, women prove successful in most cases. In the social affairs, women take responsibility of home, children, and of the husband too. Some of them do all these at the same time, study, work, manage home, etc.
Men may do study, and work, but sometimes they fail to do all. How life would be if there are no women? Can men hold the responsibility? I don't think so, while it happens in the case of women.
So, why shouldn't people take the matter easy to deal with women normally as partners in the social life? One should not be emotional or partial in such an issue, but to be rational and take the matter through the mind's eye.
Majed Thabet Al-kholidy is a writer from Taiz, currently doing his M.A. at English Dep, Taiz Uni. He is an ex-editor of English Journal of the University.
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