Fathers, are you friends to your sons? [Archives:2007/1107/Community]

By: Fatima Al-Subban
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Friendship is the relationship between two or more persons and incorporates many things, such as faith, honesty and keeping secrets. Friends will sacrifice for each other's lives in any situation, even lying to protect their relationship from being destroyed.

Rarely is there friendship between fathers and sons in our society, where the only shared bond is biological. The prophet Mohammed advised fathers to take their children to the mosque, meaning that they should teach them good Islamic morals – teaching them themselves – so their children will form good relationships during their childhood. Doing this produces friendship between fathers and sons as the sons become men.

This relationship improves while sons are in school, especially as teenagers. It is during this time that both boys and girls need all possible care. Fathers and mothers should take care that all of their dependants are bound reasonably because the teen years are a very dangerous stage of life for boys and girls, which can lead to deviation. The eyes of fathers and mothers should be turned to their teenaged sons.

Mothers also have feelings toward their children, but throughout the world, friendship grows more between mothers and daughters because daughters share the same feelings as their mothers. As a result, to whom do they turn when there's a problem? Daughters usually confide in their mothers, rarely their fathers, and this is generally true all over the world.

Another type of friendship is that between human and animal and we may call this the strangest friendship. Satellite channels often depict this strange friendship. They once showed a man who had found a crocodile that had been shot and was lying in a forest in Europe. Because the crocodile was suffering from his wound, the man treated the animal by feeding and bathing it and giving it something to drink.

Once it was returned to good health, they still related to one another and didn't separate, often swimming in rivers together. The man trained the animal for shows, moving amid the assembly of those watching with admiration in their eyes. It was an amazing show because the crocodile appreciated the man's care.

While we can appreciate such friendship between humans and animals, the more important friendship involves our sons, who need all of our care during these critical times. One of the most important things is to prevent the inrush of drugs and pills into our sons' hands, as well as sexual deviation because who will suffer due to these problems? Parents, of course.

Many sources contribute to such fall, among them are parents spoiling their children. For this reason, I advise fathers not to make the friendship more than is good, such as giving their children money to buy anything they like, even bad things. Because there's often no observation by father or mother, bad sons can exploit them. The result is that they fall by taking drugs or pills, chewing qat, etc.

I hope that all fathers and mothers will give their children all of their emotions and care so that they won't fall into life's various abysses.
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