Top 10 ways to overcome tragedy & loss [Archives:2006/987/Community]
Ms. Lakshmi Devi P K
Engineering Secretary
Moevenpick Hotel, Sana'a
[email protected]
Life is fraught with setbacks of different magnitude most of which can be successfully averted if one is armed with the right attitude and if one takes reasonable precaution at the nick of moment.
The following tips my help:
1. Surround yourself with positive people who will act as your support group. This is vital to your overcoming the problem at hand. These people will be there for you through your time of need and will act as your emotional crutch when needed.
2. Never be afraid to ask for help or something you need. For example, if tragedy has caused you to be too emotionally unstable to finish your homework, ask for an extension. Talk to your teacher (s) after class and explain what's going on. Chances are excellent that they will understand.
3. Remember that it is okay to cry. If you feel the need, by all means let the tears flow! it will release some tension and can help you breathe better and even feel a little less burdened.
4. Teens often feel we are alone in an issue when the truth is that millions of people all over the world could be going through the same thing. Remember that you are not alone. If you feel like you don't have anyone to reach out to, there are places you can go to discuss your feelings.
5. When tragedy occurs, many of us blame ourselves. It is important to remember that even if you were there you probably could not have prevented the unthinkable from happening. Even if you could have prevented it, you need to come to a place of acceptance that, for whatever reason, it just did not work out that way. Some things in life occur at a moments notice and there is nothing any of us can do about them. One thing we can do in a situation of this nature is to try to deal with it the best we can, whether this entails reaching out to others or taking time for ourselves.
6. It is important to find an outlet for all the emotions you are feeling whether its writing, playing music, talking to friends, etc. You may also want to set aside a time each day that's just for you where you can cry or just let out all your emotions.
7. Everyone has different ways and time frames of dealing loss. There is no time limit when it comes to mourning the loss of someone.
8. Try to find comfort in the things you once did. This is very important since you need to find something to numb the pain.
9. If you feel that what you are going through is too much for you to deal with, try to get some professional help. You can talk to counselor, or got to a youth meeting, etc.
10. Remember all of the good times you had. In the event of a death, believe that the person wouldn't want you crying because they're gone but celebrating how fortunate they were to live the life they had. Try to find another perspective, for example, they are just starting a new adventure and needed more than this world had to offer.
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