Dear Maged, Equality of rights, not of nature! [Archives:2007/1085/Community]
Noha Mohd Molhi
I never imagine myself taking a pen in order to write for a newspaper. But I have been aroused to by the words of Mr. Maged Thabet Al-kholidy in his article entitled “Gender-equality, is it a game dear women?”.
In this article, I am not attacking Mr. Maged in person. However, I will critically comment on his ideas about the equality between women and men. It is only a matter of expressing opinions, dear Maged, and you should accept it open-heartedly.
Actually, I like some of the sensitive ideas in his article. He, however, shows himself as a biased and emotional person.
He finds enough freedom to attack women through his- sorry to say- “blind eye”. He wonders why a passing woman avoids accompanying a man who may offer her a ride. That may happen with some. Socially this will not be accepted as a personal behavior. If this happens, how can we be sure that men will not think badly of the woman? As a result, there will be a lot of moral problems.
Regarding the responsibility of marriage, it is a religious rule that it is man who must propose and offer dowry to the women. We follow Islam, and respect its system. Furthermore, the responsibility of the first night of marriage is “manhood-test task”. If the man can not be responsible for that, he shouldn't get married at all.
In fact, man and women have different duties as a husband and wife. The home's needs, and requirements are the responsibility of the husband. Similarly, the wife has a responsibility of home affairs, such as children, pregnancy, etc. This is enough equality, in my opinion.
I do not know how Mr. Maged forgets the fact that the nature of women differs from the nature of men. If they are equal, as Maged wants, men will not like women as wives. In other words, women are sensitive, full of emotions, etc. these features make men like women, while they will reject them if they are harsh and tough like men.
These are the ideas that I reject in Maged's article. I, moreover, want to remind him and any other that gender-equality is demanded in terms of rights, i.e. the right of equal education, the right of work, the right of choosing husbands and so on, while the equality of nature is something genetic as created by God.
Finally, I hope that I logically, and convincingly argued the ideas, aiming not to offend Mr. Maged or any others, especially men.