Love comes after marriage [Archives:2003/659/Letters to the Editor]

Mohamed S. Abdul
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I would like to say, having just been married myself the 'old fashion way', that love does come after marriage. With the structure of the society the way it is its very difficult to truly find someone in such a format that you can mingle on a high level. I am currently a university student in the U.S and feel although the process is not the most efficient one; it does in some respects do the job. The issue of personal preferences is quiet interesting in that it's universally sound throughout our culture that an unattainable bar is set when trying to get people married; so many things are said to “close the deal” and that alone can ultimately alter ones decision to get married or not. Ethics are so far forgotten that leave the marriage to chance for the couples to discover things as they get to know each other. More often then not, families tend to complicate the issue by setting high standards for each party thus making it difficult to really base a decision on such 'false' information.
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