Marriage nowadays as an investment chance [Archives:2007/1047/Community]

By: Maged Thabet Al-Kholidy
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Marriage, as a means of social integration, plays a great role in stabilizing the social relations among people. It is of immense significance for both sexes, male and female, and their families as well. Men are, however, usually looked at as the beneficiary-'winner'- part of marriage. Because of that a man is always obliged to hold the responsibility of everything related to marriage and its religious, traditional, and social burdens.

Hopefully, a man of a good educational and social status proposes to a lady's hand with a confidence that he would not be refused especially if he has a pre-love relation with his 'dreams' lady'. He may not be surprised when the father asks for a period of time to take the daughter's opinion. His love relation makes him feel comfortable about the daughter's reply, expecting no 'conditions' or demands.

It becomes a matter of fashion nowadays to welcome a man proposing a girl's hand with a list of conditions and demands. The list usually starts with the girl's rights to study or to work after marriage. Many other demands are required by the parents and sometimes other relatives. The girl in such circumstances hides behind the curtains with the pretext of shyness, or social restrictions, or parent's obedience.

Being involved in such a “trap””